“There is good anger and there is bad anger!”
Scripture John 4:5-42
Once Upon a Time-On a Mountain
- A couple climbed a mountain and met a woman
- They were invited to sit down and ask her a question
- They asked about the meaning of life – she told them
- They asked for her recipe for holiness – no problem
- They asked her about the secrets of the universe – no problem
- They asked her about their anger toward each other – problem
- She broke her pencil stomped off to her cave and said….
- Her punchline….
Gospel – Are We Shocked?
- Jesus is angry – but it is a good angry
- We’ve heard him during his ministry
- ”You faithless and perverse generation, how much longer must I be with you?
- Scolding Peter: “Get behind me Satan!”
- Cursing the fig tree because Jesus is hungry for figs – the tree dies
Good Anger – Confronting the Money Changers
- Flailing a rope – Jesus overturns the table – gold and silver everywhere
- Jesus is really passionate and really angry
- Our Jesus is not bland or boring
Righteous Anger – Based in Loving Care
- For those who are being unjustly treated
- Terrible exchange rate for Emperor coins to Temple coins
- Poor people were being ripped off – The Lord was livid
Notice – No Anger when Jesus was Target
- Jesus was silent during the torture of Roman soldiers
- They spat, struck, and placed a crown of thorns on his head
- No anger
On the Cross
- No persecution – only forgiveness
- Jesus had every right to be angry
- Jesus is a better person than me
Our Bad Anger
- Spouts expletives at another person is traffic
- Curses an swears at someone for the slightest oversight
- Seethes up in us like a cancer or tea kettle about to explode
- Might overwhelm or scare us
Anger is a Feeling – Good or Bad – Our Choice
- Letting Go of Anger: The 10 Most Common Anger Styles and What to Do About Them
- Ten Styles: avoidance, sneaky, moral habitual, addictive, shameful, paranoid, sudden and hateful
- There is a survey at the front of the book that helps you determine yours
- Anger is normal
- I can be angry
- I am a good person even when angry
- I can use my anger well
Is it OK to Be Angry with the Lord?
- Our prayer needs to be real
- Our expression of anger, talking it through with the Lord/others that begins the healing process – we begin to let go
- Underneath anger is hurt – my anger says I don’t want to admit my hurt
Anger is Messenger We Must Not Ignore
Questions for Reflection
- What impacted you from today’s Readings and/or homily?
- What did you think of Jesus’ reaction in the Temple?
- What is your anger style? What might your bad anger look like?
- What does righteous anger look like for you? Examples?
- This Lent, think of ways you can offer forgiveness instead of anger. Also, consider ways to use your good anger well in the future. Execute both when the opportunity arrives.